When a person goes through a divorce, it is often one of the most trying and emotional experiences they will go through in their life. During this time, the process can be overwhelming, as there are many things to remember. A part of divorce that spouses may not usually consider is their behavior and actions throughout the process. This is just as important as any other part of the proceedings, as certain actions can be harmful to the outcome. It is because of this that the Law Offices of Paone, Zaleski & Murphy compiled a list of all the “do’s and don’ts” you should keep in mind during this time. Continue reading below to learn more and contact our firm for guidance during your divorce proceedings. 

What Should I Do?

The steps you take during a divorce can help you to receive your desired outcome. The following are actions to take after filing for a dissolution of marriage:

  • Change passwords to all email accounts and social media sites
  • Disclose all assets and liabilities when filling out your inventory
  • Be aware of the household budget and expenses
  • Collect your last two tax returns, real estate deeds, and mortgage documents
  • Examine your credit history and get a credit report
  • Know the total balance on any joint checking and savings bank accounts
  • Know the balance on your retirement plans, 401(k), pension plan, etc.
  • Get a copy of your spouse’s last two paycheck stubs
  • Seek out a CPA or accountant to help review the tax implications of your divorce
  • Seek help for any alcohol or illegal substance abuse
  • Keep a journal to document the exchange and pick up of any children you have
  • Keep any copies of money paid to your spouse
  • Be sure to pay your child support on time
  • Maintain good co-parenting practices with your spouse
  • Comply with any court-ordered injunctions and restrictions

What Should I Not Do?

Just as there are actions you should be taking, there are also actions that should be avoided during your divorce proceedings. This can include the following:

  • Keep things from your attorney
  • Post anything on social media that can be used against you
  • Post information regarding your divorce on social media
  • Withhold visitation from your spouse for their failure to make child support payments
  • Move out of state with your children
  • Start another romantic relationship during the proceedings
  • Bring a new significant other around your children or the court hearings
  • Get pregnant or get anyone pregnant
  • Remove children from their current school
  • Buy real estate or any extravagant items while the divorce is pending
  • Sell property without the court’s permission
  • Send mean or negative emails, texts, messages, etc. to your spouse
  • Increase your debt while the divorce is pending
  • Give large contributions to anyone during the proceedings
  • Discuss the case with your children or use them as intermediaries
  • Criticize your spouse in front of your children

Contact our Firm

 If you require strong legal representation for matters of divorce and family law in New Jersey, contact The Law Offices of Paone, Zaleski & Murphy to schedule a consultation with one of our experienced attorneys today.