The divorce process is overwhelming and stressful. As a result, it is important to be reminded of the common mistakes that are made by parents with child custody when going through their divorce. To learn more, read on and reach out to our dedicated and experienced Monmouth County divorce attorneys. Our legal team is on your side.

What are the most common types of child custody mistakes parents make in New Jersey?

Posting on Social media

It is important that you do not criticize your ex to your children or publicly. In the age of social media, people feel comfortable releasing their frustrations on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and other locations online. Courts frown heavily on this behavior. It can make parents look unstable or demonstrate that they cannot keep a healthy relationship and environment for their children. That is why it is critical that you keep your private life personal. Discuss your feelings with your friends and family, or with a counselor, but do not post publicly about your marital issues or your feelings about your former spouse.

Losing focus on your children

If you are going through a divorce, you will likely have a million things on your plate. For example, you may have to move out of your house, deal with social concerns with your family and friends, work on getting your finances in order, and prepare your legal case, all while dealing with what is likely a challenging time internally. If you have children, it is critical that you keep your attention on them, especially during such an emotional time. If you miss your visitation or custodial time together, or if you start to miss phone calls and other events, you may lose your custody status by the time the court makes a decision. It is important that you prioritize your children, regardless of the challenges you are facing.

Withholding visitation

In the event that your former spouse owes you child support and refuses to pay, it is important that you take your problems to the court, rather than attempting to handle them on your own. In other words, do not penalize your former spouse by withholding visitation. Declining to let a parent have their court-mandated parenting time is a violation of a court order and, in severe circumstances, it may even be deemed as kidnapping. Reach out to one of our experienced Monmouth County divorce attorneys if you are facing challenges with your former spouse.


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