There are many actions that can impact divorce proceedings for the good or for the bad. Continue reading to learn the “dos” and “don’ts” for individuals to consider when facing a divorce. If you have any further questions, give our experienced divorce attorney a call.

The “Dos” of a Divorce

It is important to take into consideration the following “dos” of a divorce to benefit your divorce proceedings for a smooth and painless process:

  • Keep any copies of money paid to your spouse
  • Keep a journal to document the exchange and pick up of your children
  • Be aware of your household budget and expenses
  • Seek help for any alcohol or illegal substance abuse
  • Maintain good co-parenting practices with your spouse
  • Know the total balance on any joint checking and savings bank accounts
  • Change the passwords to all of your email accounts 
  • Change the passwords to all of your social media sites
  • Know the balance on your retirement plans, 401(k), pension plan, etc.
  • When filling out your inventory, disclose all assets and liabilities
  • Collect your real estate deeds, and mortgage documents, your last two tax returns
  • Make a copy of your spouse’s last two paycheck stubs
  • Seek out a CPA or accountant to help review the tax implications of your divorce
  • Comply with any court-ordered injunctions and restrictions
  • Pay your child support on time
  • Examine your credit history 
  • Get a credit report

The “Don’ts” of a Divorce

There are also many behaviors and actions that can negatively impact a divorce. The following are the behaviors to avoid throughout the divorce proceedings process to avoid negative impacts on the outcome of your divorce:

  • Withhold visitation from your spouse for their failure to make child support payments
  • Get pregnant or get anyone pregnant
  • Send mean or negative emails, texts, messages, etc. to your spouse
  • Start another romantic relationship during the proceedings
  • Bring a new significant other around your children or the court hearings
  • Remove children from their current school
  • Discuss the case with your children or use them as intermediaries
  • Criticize your spouse in front of your children
  • Move out of state with your children
  • Post information regarding your divorce on social media
  • Post content on social media that can be used against you
  • Buy real estate or any extravagant items while the divorce is pending
  • Sell property without the court’s permission
  • Increase your debt while the divorce is pending
  • Give large contributions to anyone during the proceedings
  • Keep things from your attorney


If you require strong legal representation for matters of divorce and family law in Rumson, Monmouth County, or anywhere in New Jersey, contact The Law Offices of Paone, Zaleski & Murphy to schedule a consultation with one of our experienced attorneys today.